The Bible speaks to us about soul ties in the book of Matthew, where it says, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh" (Matthew 19:5). The main purpose of a soul tie is to create a strong marital bond. When man was created, he was made as a complete being, meaning he did not need anyone else to be perfect. However, God noticed that man was lonely because he was unable to interact with himself in the way God intended.
It is important to understand that God is a triune being, and when He created man, He also endowed him with the capacity to be a triune being, able to communicate with himself. The Bible says, "Let us make man in our own image" (Genesis 1:26), indicating that God was communicating within Himself—the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. God's intention was for us to be triune as well, but Adam could not access that part of his nature that would allow him to communicate at the level or place in which God communicates, so he became lonely despite being created complete.
To address this, God caused Adam to sleep and took out that part of him that He wanted Adam to communicate with from within. He then created Eve. When Eve was created, she was essentially a part of Adam that was taken out of him, which is why men often feel more alive when they enter into a relationship. This is reflected in the statement, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him" (Genesis 2:18).
So, does this mean a person is not complete if they are not married? In a sense, yes, because marriage is meant to bring forth perfection. Many people do not fully understand soul ties and the profound impact they can have on one's life. Soul ties are not limited to marriage; they can also be created outside of marriage. However, the place where soul ties have the strongest effect and where they should manifest most is in the context of marriage. This is because, in marriage, the purpose of the soul tie is to bring completion and perfection so that one can fully function in their calling.
But what about people who are not married? How do they also walk in perfection, one might wonder. It is important to understand that even as we grow up, our parents, friends, and the people we interact with play a role in bringing some form of completion or perfection to our lives. For example, two young boys can grow up together, sharing dreams and aspirations to the point where they both pursue the same career. Though they were just friends, their bond became so strong that the decisions they make later in life, even when they are no longer together, are influenced by the friendship they once had.
Friendships can create such strong bonds that they shape one's destiny and contribute to one's completion or perfection. This is why it's crucial to be mindful of who your children interact with. For example, David was not supposed to be king because he was not the heir of Saul, but because of his strong relationship with Jonathan, he became the heir. Jonathan said to David, "You are like me, my brother," and they made a covenant (1 Samuel 18:3). Through this covenant, David stepped into a place of authority that he did not have access to before, even though he was anointed for that position.
It's not merely about a soul tie, but rather a bond that unlocks certain aspects of your life. When a husband leaves his father and mother and unites with his wife, the connection they form through their relationship acts as a mirror. It reflects aspects of who they are back to each other. This is why it’s crucial to be connected to the right person. If you are married to the wrong person, they will reflect the wrong things back to you, leading to a life of frustration. This is why the Bible warns, "Do not be unequally yoked" (2 Corinthians 6:14), meaning that you can connect with someone who does not share the same destiny with you, and as a result, they reflect negative things in your life.
This principle extends beyond marriage to friendships as well. Consider the relationship between David and Jonathan. David became the king of Israel, not just because he was anointed, but because of his strong bond with Jonathan. Jonathan was the heir to the throne, yet he recognised God's calling on David's life (1 Samuel 18:3). Without this connection, it would have been much more difficult for David to ascend to the throne, even though he was anointed. God had already made Saul king of Israel, and that position was meant to be passed from father to son, as Saul was the rightful king. However, through their strong relationship, Jonathan essentially passed on what his father had given him to David.
Relationships have the power to perfect us and shape our destiny. This raises an important question: who are you connected to, and what are they reflecting back to you? The people you connect with play a significant role in determining where you go in life. Who are you connected to?